The importance of having a theme in life is very important,more so for a writer.You need some sort of direction otherwise you may lose your readers when everything is jumbled up that at the end they do no not have a clue about what you were talking about in the first place!I am a culprit.Guilty as charged of times just writing without any order.I'm gonna try and up grade that.
Someone once said that a wise person will not wait to make all the mistakes before he can learn but he watches others and also learns from their mistakes.Truth of the matter being,you do not have such a long life and secondly,some mistakes once done,the lesson come with consequences you'd wish you had learned from another because as the wisest man concluded,there indeed is nothing new ynder the sun!
Relationships.We love them.We all are always on the look out for the "right" partner.I don't know if they come with stickers on their forehead with one's name on it.I mean,how do you know when Mr. or Miss right comes along,when you never give yourself time to know anyone?Or maybe you have hopes that Angel Gabriel will decide to play cupid and visit you in a dream...Anyway,we all have our styles and methods of getting things done and whatever works for you,by all means go by it.Note that this concerns come from a heart full of concern.I don't know.Could be because there is he I have met and my world feels at ease?You know the way one you are bit by the love bug,you just want everyone else to experience that because it's such an amazing feeling you start wondering how you even survived without for such a long time...Depending of course,on when you get bit.Ok,this had nothing to do with me.The inspiration for this was something totatlly different.Something I have observed;with some married couples and woe unto me if I should take the same path once I join that league!
So,let me make the assumption that if you are married,you have your Mr. and Mrs Right beside you.OK,Maina and King'ang'i had a debate the other day that made some marriages look like they just happened without much consent.It's like you were single one day and the next day,pap!You was married.And I wonder,if you had a wedding,who was planning that wedding?I mean,were you subconscious the whole time and only gained consciousness once you were man and wife?I don't know.I'm just trying to understand that concept and the more I think about it,the more I think that if you are in a marriage that you are now regretting,it is because you entered that relationship with selfish desires and now probably,the selfish desires have been met so you really do not see the use of this person any more.Just saying.Don't shoot me down.Any way,what do I know?I haven't been married even for a second so let me drop that.
What does it take in a marriage to be totally trusting of your partner.What I have observed is that some strains in marriages and maybe relationships as well,are brought about by doubt.Times it is because the doubting partner is doing what he is doubting the partner of or past experiences that we hold on to so dearly you would think they are the source of our oxygen.I mean,why do we always end up so hang up on the past yet all it does is steal from us our present joys and beauties?I don't know and that is one of the things that make human beings very special beings!
Ever heard a cheating spouse go like "You pushed me into it.You were always questioning me even when there was nothing happening that I decided,'why not get crucified for a mistake than being prosecuted an innocent man?'"The more I observe the more I realise this can be true because that's how I deal with some things.I reached this point in my life where I decided,'If you already have an opinion about me and you treat me as per your opinion,I won't ask for a trial to prove myself to you.I will not prove you wrong.'It is a deadly attitude to have and you must use it as the last resort and you need to be sure you can handle the many different opinions otherwise you just may be trapping yourself.But that is a story for another day.
See,if you are having an affair,it means you usually lie a number of times.You say you have a meeting at work,when in reality,the meeting is at a hotel room with your clande.So,when your otherwise faithful partner tells you they have a meeting,which is the honest truth,you find it hard to believe,not because of him but because of you.Because that is what you do,you ultimately start doubting,even though this man has never given you reason to doubt.It is your own guilt playing tricks on you.
This is not direct to victims of unfaithful partners,it is more directed to those who are unfaithful and hence end up thinking that everyone who says what they say is ultimately thinking.Times,there is nothing wrong with the world but everything wrong with your eyes or point of view.So,when you find yourself too quick to complain about everyone and everything,before you point a finger,go see your 'optician' first and ensure your eyesight is in perfect condition.Just saying...
Be sure not to let your past,guilt or any of those things be the reason for the break up of a beautiful relationship.Let your fears not run your life,instead face them and deal with them.I think if couples talked more,a lot of the drama marriages have nowadays would die.Communication is very important and those close to me know just how dear it is to me.I discovered its powers at an early age.I now know that with communication,every crease can be straightened out but now again the other problem is,do I trust this person with the truth?Because in communication,it means I will call up my man,tell him we need to talk and tell him I'm having this fear that he... We will have to be in the same level to know that I am not accusing him but simply stating my fears...
Communication in a relationship is a wide topic and I am not at the point yet,where I am being paid to write,so I need to go and do what actually pays me and allows me t have the finances to access the web and write.Lol.Have a lovely day!
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
RELATING GOD'S WAY 1
Good morning.Hope you are doing well.I'm far from well,I am fantastic.So,you may read this months or even years from now but isn't it such an awesome thing that words are imperishable?Today I started my day early and it started with a talk with my heavenly Father that has left me feeling so fresh and rejuvinated.I believe I am going to have an awesome day.
Today I choose to talk about a topic that we all love,relationships,but I am going to look at it from a different aspect that I believe we know of but just choose to ignore.Dating,courting,God's way.Yes,God has His way about how we should handle our relationships and specifically here,boy girl relationships.
I had made up my mind as I was joining high school that I was not going to 'date' and I did survive.Not to say I didn't have crushes and all but I just never committed to anyone and looking back now,I wish I had remained as focused after high school but stuff happen.If I knew the real meaning of dating though,I think I would have been ok.Now dating should be all about meeting and getting to know someone with no strings attached.Like you can date five people at the same time with no strings attached.I believe that God has someone for everyone,if it is your desire to get married and I also believe He being so good did not plan for us to get our heart broken fifty times before we finally get the One.I think we are just way too impatient and so we hurry things and hence the proverb,hurry hurry has no blessing.Now,I am not expecting a clap or a standing ovation after this,I am simply stating things the way I see them.You may choose to agree or disagree with me.It's all good.
A brief history of my life with boys.I think for the longest time I used them for my own selfish reasons without really knowing.Now,when I started going out with guys,what we otherwise call dating,I didn't realize it but I did it simply because my self esteem was down and I needed someone to sort of keep me going.That I am beautiful,is a fact and I am not bragging here.So I somehow always had guys interested in me.It was flattering,when beauty is all you have to live by,lets just say it takes all your attention.Now,I don't know if these guys knew my heart and thought it beautiful or it was all physical and frankly,at that time,I cared less.Most of these relationships were physical.You decide you are going out only for your meetings to always be make out sessions.You meet up for lunch,you enjoy the food,watch a movie or two the make out.Making out was the main thing.I think it worked for me because it kept me from talking about my emotions and the real issues of life and at the same time it gave a false idea of closeness that was only physical.
I am a born again someone and even back then I was but does that really hold any water in today's world?Do we really give God a thought when we are there with that someone we like,in a room alone?I doubt it.I would think about it.Think how God did not approve of it but what the heck,He has to understand I am human and I am not perfect and I have feelings and the list goes on forever!Now though,I know that when God requires purity of us,it is not for His sake,but our very own.Yes.See,God is a good God and His plans for us are good and I doubt broken hearts are good so I doubt they come from God.I can promise you,right now,making out is somewhat disgusting.I do not like it.I do not enjoy it.Given,when you make out you are basically fulfilling the desires that you have allowed to be aroused but there is nothing special in it any more.I think over doing something kills the beauty of it.Currently,if I make out with a guy,it kills any sparks there was.That is how bad it is.Given,I am still a virgin and proud of it but I have not kept myself totally pure either.
Writing keeps me sane.I write best when I speak from the heart.This may go a long way to helping just one person and its ok.I stopped writing for multitude or recognition.If you are still as pure as you were born.Don't know what a kiss tastes like or what a touch in some places can do to you,you are so much better off that way.Ask those who have gotten married without a prior knowledge of sex and its children(foreplay etc) how beautiful it is.And ask they who have had multiple sexual relationships how plain it is.
I have work to go to.I shall continue this later.Have a lovely day.
Today I choose to talk about a topic that we all love,relationships,but I am going to look at it from a different aspect that I believe we know of but just choose to ignore.Dating,courting,God's way.Yes,God has His way about how we should handle our relationships and specifically here,boy girl relationships.
I had made up my mind as I was joining high school that I was not going to 'date' and I did survive.Not to say I didn't have crushes and all but I just never committed to anyone and looking back now,I wish I had remained as focused after high school but stuff happen.If I knew the real meaning of dating though,I think I would have been ok.Now dating should be all about meeting and getting to know someone with no strings attached.Like you can date five people at the same time with no strings attached.I believe that God has someone for everyone,if it is your desire to get married and I also believe He being so good did not plan for us to get our heart broken fifty times before we finally get the One.I think we are just way too impatient and so we hurry things and hence the proverb,hurry hurry has no blessing.Now,I am not expecting a clap or a standing ovation after this,I am simply stating things the way I see them.You may choose to agree or disagree with me.It's all good.
A brief history of my life with boys.I think for the longest time I used them for my own selfish reasons without really knowing.Now,when I started going out with guys,what we otherwise call dating,I didn't realize it but I did it simply because my self esteem was down and I needed someone to sort of keep me going.That I am beautiful,is a fact and I am not bragging here.So I somehow always had guys interested in me.It was flattering,when beauty is all you have to live by,lets just say it takes all your attention.Now,I don't know if these guys knew my heart and thought it beautiful or it was all physical and frankly,at that time,I cared less.Most of these relationships were physical.You decide you are going out only for your meetings to always be make out sessions.You meet up for lunch,you enjoy the food,watch a movie or two the make out.Making out was the main thing.I think it worked for me because it kept me from talking about my emotions and the real issues of life and at the same time it gave a false idea of closeness that was only physical.
I am a born again someone and even back then I was but does that really hold any water in today's world?Do we really give God a thought when we are there with that someone we like,in a room alone?I doubt it.I would think about it.Think how God did not approve of it but what the heck,He has to understand I am human and I am not perfect and I have feelings and the list goes on forever!Now though,I know that when God requires purity of us,it is not for His sake,but our very own.Yes.See,God is a good God and His plans for us are good and I doubt broken hearts are good so I doubt they come from God.I can promise you,right now,making out is somewhat disgusting.I do not like it.I do not enjoy it.Given,when you make out you are basically fulfilling the desires that you have allowed to be aroused but there is nothing special in it any more.I think over doing something kills the beauty of it.Currently,if I make out with a guy,it kills any sparks there was.That is how bad it is.Given,I am still a virgin and proud of it but I have not kept myself totally pure either.
Writing keeps me sane.I write best when I speak from the heart.This may go a long way to helping just one person and its ok.I stopped writing for multitude or recognition.If you are still as pure as you were born.Don't know what a kiss tastes like or what a touch in some places can do to you,you are so much better off that way.Ask those who have gotten married without a prior knowledge of sex and its children(foreplay etc) how beautiful it is.And ask they who have had multiple sexual relationships how plain it is.
I have work to go to.I shall continue this later.Have a lovely day.
Saturday, January 8, 2011
NEW YEAR NEW THINGS...
2011 is here with us.I started it quite well i should say.At least i was with some of my close pals so that made it special and oh yes I was also bitten by the resolution bug and I have mine.My theme for last year was this too shall pass and indeed it worked for me.This year I'm all about building foundations.Foundations for my life,as a person.This year is when I sort of want to lay down a plan for my life and the first things on my list are my talents.To work on them and build an establishment for them hence I shall be writing more because writing is one of the things I do best.And no.not writing so that I may bee applauded-that is the wrong motivation to do anything.Writing because I know this is one of the ways I can make my contribution to the world.Doing it with an aim of improving someone's life somehow.So,this year,we are taking writing very seriously and my cards business also needs to come out of being a pastime activity and have my full activity.
Let me talk a bit about commitment.When was the last time you committed yourself to anything?You see,being committed means doing something even when it feels too tiring or boring.It is seeing something to the end regardless of the challenges.When you are committed to something,you do not quit.You keep doing it until you get it done.Why do people fail in exams?It's not because they are not sharp,far from it.It is largely because they are not committed to their school work.They handle it as per how they feel on a specific day.Why are our relationships not lasting six months?Well,we are not committed to them.We take them casually.When tough times come,we run or hide because there is a lack of commitment.Why do we have affairs happening left,right and center?A lack of commitment to our partners.Yes you love him but of you are not committed to him,when that other man starts giving you more attention you find yourself drifting.When you are not committed you are somewhat loose,for lack of a better word.You just go with the flow because you are not grounded.When you commit yourself to something or someone,you give it your best shot.You know its importance and not for a minute do you undermine it.
So,I have decided I am going to commit myself to my talents,my work school and relationships.In my writing,I will draft something daily even when it does not seem to make sense.I will still write.When it comes to the cards,I will make designs even though when I look at them I wouldn't buy them to save myself,I will still do it.At work,I will look for all the resources I can land my hands on to learn more about what I am doing to improve myself.In my relationships,I will invest my time.I will find out about my friends and how they are doing.I will cultivate the relationships.I think for the first say three months of 2011,COMMITMENT is what I will be practicing and learning and make sure it becomes a part of me.that whatever I do,I shall be committed to it.Let everyone who meets me this year have one thing to say about me,'She is committed to whatever she does.'
I know not what your resolutions for the year are.Just make sure they are SMART.Specific,Manageable(i think)Attainable,Realistic,Time bound.Correct me if I am wrong.And,I realized,you don't have to wait for a new year for you to make adjustments in your life.You make the adjustments the moment you realize something you are doing is not helping you be the best you can be.You work on it then.
It is a beautiful Sunday morning.I need to get ready for church.P/s:I will also work on learning more about technology.I am a bit blonde when it comes to that.lol.Have yourself an awesome day and may you live each day as if it was your last.May you give of yourself to the things you love and may love and joy and peace be your stalkers for the rest of the year,or until I get something different to wish you.
Take care.
xoxo
Moulding Beauty.
Let me talk a bit about commitment.When was the last time you committed yourself to anything?You see,being committed means doing something even when it feels too tiring or boring.It is seeing something to the end regardless of the challenges.When you are committed to something,you do not quit.You keep doing it until you get it done.Why do people fail in exams?It's not because they are not sharp,far from it.It is largely because they are not committed to their school work.They handle it as per how they feel on a specific day.Why are our relationships not lasting six months?Well,we are not committed to them.We take them casually.When tough times come,we run or hide because there is a lack of commitment.Why do we have affairs happening left,right and center?A lack of commitment to our partners.Yes you love him but of you are not committed to him,when that other man starts giving you more attention you find yourself drifting.When you are not committed you are somewhat loose,for lack of a better word.You just go with the flow because you are not grounded.When you commit yourself to something or someone,you give it your best shot.You know its importance and not for a minute do you undermine it.
So,I have decided I am going to commit myself to my talents,my work school and relationships.In my writing,I will draft something daily even when it does not seem to make sense.I will still write.When it comes to the cards,I will make designs even though when I look at them I wouldn't buy them to save myself,I will still do it.At work,I will look for all the resources I can land my hands on to learn more about what I am doing to improve myself.In my relationships,I will invest my time.I will find out about my friends and how they are doing.I will cultivate the relationships.I think for the first say three months of 2011,COMMITMENT is what I will be practicing and learning and make sure it becomes a part of me.that whatever I do,I shall be committed to it.Let everyone who meets me this year have one thing to say about me,'She is committed to whatever she does.'
I know not what your resolutions for the year are.Just make sure they are SMART.Specific,Manageable(i think)Attainable,Realistic,Time bound.Correct me if I am wrong.And,I realized,you don't have to wait for a new year for you to make adjustments in your life.You make the adjustments the moment you realize something you are doing is not helping you be the best you can be.You work on it then.
It is a beautiful Sunday morning.I need to get ready for church.P/s:I will also work on learning more about technology.I am a bit blonde when it comes to that.lol.Have yourself an awesome day and may you live each day as if it was your last.May you give of yourself to the things you love and may love and joy and peace be your stalkers for the rest of the year,or until I get something different to wish you.
Take care.
xoxo
Moulding Beauty.
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