The importance of having a theme in life is very important,more so for a writer.You need some sort of direction otherwise you may lose your readers when everything is jumbled up that at the end they do no not have a clue about what you were talking about in the first place!I am a culprit.Guilty as charged of times just writing without any order.I'm gonna try and up grade that.
Someone once said that a wise person will not wait to make all the mistakes before he can learn but he watches others and also learns from their mistakes.Truth of the matter being,you do not have such a long life and secondly,some mistakes once done,the lesson come with consequences you'd wish you had learned from another because as the wisest man concluded,there indeed is nothing new ynder the sun!
Relationships.We love them.We all are always on the look out for the "right" partner.I don't know if they come with stickers on their forehead with one's name on it.I mean,how do you know when Mr. or Miss right comes along,when you never give yourself time to know anyone?Or maybe you have hopes that Angel Gabriel will decide to play cupid and visit you in a dream...Anyway,we all have our styles and methods of getting things done and whatever works for you,by all means go by it.Note that this concerns come from a heart full of concern.I don't know.Could be because there is he I have met and my world feels at ease?You know the way one you are bit by the love bug,you just want everyone else to experience that because it's such an amazing feeling you start wondering how you even survived without for such a long time...Depending of course,on when you get bit.Ok,this had nothing to do with me.The inspiration for this was something totatlly different.Something I have observed;with some married couples and woe unto me if I should take the same path once I join that league!
So,let me make the assumption that if you are married,you have your Mr. and Mrs Right beside you.OK,Maina and King'ang'i had a debate the other day that made some marriages look like they just happened without much consent.It's like you were single one day and the next day,pap!You was married.And I wonder,if you had a wedding,who was planning that wedding?I mean,were you subconscious the whole time and only gained consciousness once you were man and wife?I don't know.I'm just trying to understand that concept and the more I think about it,the more I think that if you are in a marriage that you are now regretting,it is because you entered that relationship with selfish desires and now probably,the selfish desires have been met so you really do not see the use of this person any more.Just saying.Don't shoot me down.Any way,what do I know?I haven't been married even for a second so let me drop that.
What does it take in a marriage to be totally trusting of your partner.What I have observed is that some strains in marriages and maybe relationships as well,are brought about by doubt.Times it is because the doubting partner is doing what he is doubting the partner of or past experiences that we hold on to so dearly you would think they are the source of our oxygen.I mean,why do we always end up so hang up on the past yet all it does is steal from us our present joys and beauties?I don't know and that is one of the things that make human beings very special beings!
Ever heard a cheating spouse go like "You pushed me into it.You were always questioning me even when there was nothing happening that I decided,'why not get crucified for a mistake than being prosecuted an innocent man?'"The more I observe the more I realise this can be true because that's how I deal with some things.I reached this point in my life where I decided,'If you already have an opinion about me and you treat me as per your opinion,I won't ask for a trial to prove myself to you.I will not prove you wrong.'It is a deadly attitude to have and you must use it as the last resort and you need to be sure you can handle the many different opinions otherwise you just may be trapping yourself.But that is a story for another day.
See,if you are having an affair,it means you usually lie a number of times.You say you have a meeting at work,when in reality,the meeting is at a hotel room with your clande.So,when your otherwise faithful partner tells you they have a meeting,which is the honest truth,you find it hard to believe,not because of him but because of you.Because that is what you do,you ultimately start doubting,even though this man has never given you reason to doubt.It is your own guilt playing tricks on you.
This is not direct to victims of unfaithful partners,it is more directed to those who are unfaithful and hence end up thinking that everyone who says what they say is ultimately thinking.Times,there is nothing wrong with the world but everything wrong with your eyes or point of view.So,when you find yourself too quick to complain about everyone and everything,before you point a finger,go see your 'optician' first and ensure your eyesight is in perfect condition.Just saying...
Be sure not to let your past,guilt or any of those things be the reason for the break up of a beautiful relationship.Let your fears not run your life,instead face them and deal with them.I think if couples talked more,a lot of the drama marriages have nowadays would die.Communication is very important and those close to me know just how dear it is to me.I discovered its powers at an early age.I now know that with communication,every crease can be straightened out but now again the other problem is,do I trust this person with the truth?Because in communication,it means I will call up my man,tell him we need to talk and tell him I'm having this fear that he... We will have to be in the same level to know that I am not accusing him but simply stating my fears...
Communication in a relationship is a wide topic and I am not at the point yet,where I am being paid to write,so I need to go and do what actually pays me and allows me t have the finances to access the web and write.Lol.Have a lovely day!
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