Love.the one topic we never get tired of.Maybe it is because we are products of love?I don't know but you and I get all excited whenever this four letter word is heard.So I shall talk about love...
A t the end of the day,we all hope to find that someone who we will love and will love us back and live happily ever after...Ok,the happily ever after depends on what side of the coin you are focusing on.Some of us actually want the fairy tale kind of happily ever after,ok most of us but reality checks in and wakes you up from your slumber and lets you know that happiness is a choice that needs to be made every morning despite what is happening around you.Hence,you can have a fight with that someone you love and it will sort of hurt but you can choose to still smile;to not go to bed mad at each other an that will become your fairy tale.Not without flaws yet the imperfections make it perfect.
Focus girl.the aim of this note was not to teach people how to love each other but rather.....
We all have our lists of expectations for that person we will say 'I do' to and even those who we will date.Some its tall dark and handsome,others its tall thin and gorgeous,yet for others as long as he knows how to dress and drives,we don't mind having that title of their baby girl.Ok dudes,don't look at me funny,I don't really know how your lists look like coz I am not a guy and I have not done research so that's why the she is being mentioned more.
So,you have the list of all the physical and material but you realize that you would also want that person who makes you feel like a million pounds.Wouldn't it be great if they came as a complete package?I know.That's why it times is difficult to choose.Tom has the looks,Dick has the finances and Harry has the heart or should I say love...Wouldn't it be much easier for Rick to be the three in one?Yeah and that will always happen...in your dreams...
So what happens when you meet this person,who does not meet your list expectations but you realize every time they enter a room,they take your breath away and when they call out your name,you feel like Cinderella and what about when their skin brushes against yours?The electricity happening is unbelievable.What happens when instead of tall he is short,Instead of thin,she is curvy,instead of rich,he is a hustler?What happens when you want to have tea and you get coffee instead and as you take it you realize just how awesome it is?What happens then?What happens when you find yourself loving someone who is nowhere near your list?Do you let the love flow or do you keep reminding yourself of the things you are looking for that they don't have,so that somehow it will bother you enough to move on?
Well,i realized that love at the end of the day is what matters.Why?you ask sarcastically.Because love will hold you together when everything else fails.When the beauty fades and the one pack settles in.When the job comes to an end and the cars have to go,same to the house.When all these things fade away,you realize that love will still keep you together but when love vacates,even with all these other things,the void becomes too much to handle and sooner rather than later,you will throw in the towel and go your separate ways.
I once loved someone.I had not planned on it.He definitely did not fit my list in the looks department...especially the height.Now i had never imagined myself with a guy shorter than me.How is that even supposed to work?There is some magic with a guy taller than me or maybe its just an illusion...it definitely is.Well,its just a matter of liking my bread buttered rather than toasted?So,i met this guy and we got to be friends and what,every time i was with him,he made me feel special and he listened and paid attention to me and above all,he knew me!I was taken aback!He was melting the ground under my feet and soon i was smitten!Ok,I kept thinking about the height issue and people modeling is one of my secret loves and heels once in a while ain't a bad thing but now this meant I had to be careful about the shoes to wear when I was with him?It bothered me for a while but what he lacked in the height department he compensated for in the personality department and when the sun set at the end of the day,i realized the personality or heart department was more important.It had more weight and that is when i started being ok with wearing sandals while with him and soon enough it was not an issue and even i shocked myself!
That's what love does to you.It sort of blinds your eyes to some things and helps you see others clearly.Well,he and i didn't go far but I am glad for that experience because it made me realize what really counts.Now,I am not saying give up on your list,im just saying be careful not to miss the diamond because it looks a little bit dusty...Now of course if a guy came in a convertible,I don't care how much better your car would be,in my world a convertible is like the epitome of all cars,so the rest don't thrill my life...I'm sorry,nothing personal,but if the convertible is all he has to offer and I've got this other route 11 guy who treats me like a princess...oh i may curse for a while...maybe contemplate mugging or something but realize a ride in a matatu with a man who loves me is worth so much more than a ride in a a (i'm in denial)in a convertible.There I said it.I learned it the hard way but it is a lesson that will keep me from missing the real gem next time.
So people,love does make you over look some of those little things that you think are so important.It makes you over look the fact that he snores or she is a clean freak.Love does not blind you of the weaknesses of the other person,it only gives you the ability to overlook them without feeling like you are being denied something.It helps you accept the other person just as they are.
Call me a hopeless romantic(that ain't news)but at the end of the day,ask anyone who has been in love and they will tell you that when all is said and done,what really matters is what your hearts are feeling and saying.
So,i just need to love you.Get me to love you and the rest will come second or not even appear.Get me to love you and the convertible won't be a problem.Get me to love you and that ultimately translates to me loving you just as you are.That is true love,When I know your weaknesses and faults but still I choose to be with you without trying to change you.To love you just as you are!
Comments very much welcomed,opinions and questions.Now it is one o'clock.Oh,it is Sunday already.I need to go and get my beauty sleep and wake up refreshed and ready for church.Have a love full day!
xoxo,Moulding Beauty.
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